Closed Legs Do Get Fed

I’m not out hear screaming from the rooftop that I’m celibate to be seen. However, it does make for “uncomfortable conversation” at times, not self discomfort, but I always stumble upon people that want to biblically oppose my position. They try to argue my decision of abstinence, like it’s up for public debate or something. I never feel compelled to justify my position. To each it’s own, our convictions aren’t universal.

The main opposition comes from those that don’t view “premarital sex” as a sin. I assume, in their opinion, biblical scriptures don’t serve as evidence or the interpretations are highly controversial. I’m not sure, what the reasons maybe, but I’ve had this conversation with lots of single women and was quite shocked at the various beliefs, as Christian believers.

As a society, we think openly discussing “sex” is taboo. We tend to pass judgment on the rising epidemic of teen pregnancies, without exploring the root of the problem. I was a teenage mother that was never properly taught to view my body as a sacred temple. I didn’t have the spiritual foundation to make the best choices. I was too broken to convince myself that I was worthy of so much more. Low self-esteem played a major part in giving the most intimate parts of me away, without ever realizing, there was so much more that I was missing.

I never knew what a healthy sexual relationship looked like. Most of my high school peers made sex seem like an amicable exchange for some tangible thing. As if, you had to “give” in order to “receive.” Like God designed our feminine parts as a bargaining tool.

I’m here to tell you, “closed legs do get fed by God, not man.” Your temple is sacred and not meant to be apart of some superficial barter system. God has exceeded every want and need in my life without compromising. I don’t have to freely give away my body in exchange for intimacy.

Some falsely view celibacy as a declaration of not wanting a spouse. Wrong! I’m not over here, pretending that I don’t desire to be married, but I choose to honor God with my obedience to keep my legs closed. I’ve had some experiences with “unwanted soul ties” and it’s definitely not worth it! Trust me, “soul ties” keep you in Egypt! You don’t belong there!

Regardless of your personal beliefs or convictions, I’m not passing judgment, but I stand firm on my beliefs. I think it’s a huge disservice to God, not to teach young women the value in waiting! Don’t condemn the actions without addressing the root. There is a overwhelming need for positive role models and mentors throughout all ages of life. You don’t need a mic or a title to make a difference. Be the example that’s needed and teach the truth!

Don’t be intimidated by taking a firm stance because societal norms has made “premarital sex” into a prerequisite for marriage. It’s not controversial to stand on biblical principles.

I allowed a live-in boyfriend to occupy my bed before marriage in the presence of my teenage daughter. (Huge mistake) We eventually got married but the seeds had already been planted, that “shacking” was acceptable. Now, to this day, her concept of shacking has been tainted by my corrupt unintentional actions. My witness isn’t credible in her eyes because I was guilty of doing the same.
Lord, I thank you for growth. When you know better, you do better. I will not expose my grandson to that lifestyle. I will teach him, as well as others, the importance of waiting!

“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”——1 Corinthians 6:18

The Word is the word, all by itself, without Modern Day societal justification. There is no gray area!